Remember your dreams for your child and family before anything went bad? What your hopes were for your children? I’ve seen many families go into this battle and lose hope, then regain it and finish with dreams that were actually better than the originals because of the battle. Truly a suffering-to-joy journey.
There is an old Jewish folk story called The King’s Diamond. In it, there is a king who had great wealth and power over a vast land. He had a diamond that became world-famous because it was not only flawless but also as big as a grapefruit. Many leaders of countries, kings and dignitaries from around the globe, had heard about the diamond and would make the journey to the king’s palace just to see it. They would approach the throne, usually with an expert jeweler from their own country, and request to see the diamond. The king would pull out a golden box adorned with other precious stones, open it and pull out a cloth bag that protected the perfect diamond, then hand it to the jeweler to be “judged.” Every time this happened, and it happened hundreds of times, the jeweler would be astonished and exclaim, “It is flawless! Perfect!” and hand it to his king. On one such day, as a jeweler was passing the diamond, he dropped it on the floor. When he picked it up, he discovered a long, arced scratch on one of the largest flat surfaces of the diamond. The king was devastated as he looked at the diamond. It was not perfect anymore but flawed. “It’s ruined!” he shouted.
After weeks of solitude in depression, the king finally embarked on trying to find a jeweler gifted enough to restore the diamond to perfection. He offered a great reward and had hundreds respond, but they all said the same thing. It was irreparable. Destined to be flawed forever. Eventually, jewelers stopped coming. The king lost hope and returned to his depression. And then one day, an old master craftsman from a local community walked into the palace requesting to see the diamond. The king was not impressed by the first sight of him, but he decided to hear him out. The old craftsman looked at every face of the diamond, especially the one with the scratch, and then he looked the king in the eye and said with calm confidence, “Sire, I will not only restore this diamond to its prior state of flawless beauty, I will make it better.”
The king was so taken aback by the confidence of the man that he agreed to let him take the diamond with him. He was gone for a long time – months. The king was overwhelmed with anxiety as he waited. It seemed endless! Then one day the old master craftsman returned to the palace and went before the king. He handed the king the box. The king opened it, pulled out the cloth bag and took the diamond from it. He looked at it with his magnifying glass. Then he gasped, “It is truly more beautiful than it was before! It is flawless!”
The master craftsman was gifted in his skill of working on precious stones. But his bigger gift was in being able to see “possibilities” no matter the situation. When others saw the flaw – a scratch on the once perfect diamond – the master craftsman saw a work of art, a masterpiece. He used the scratch as a beginning of a masterpiece. It became the stem for the rose that the old man carved at the top of it. It was indeed more beautiful than ever before. Perfect, flaws and all!