Love in Action – Showing Up For Your Son

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A common concern for our Capstone parents is how they will manage to hold firm boundaries and aid their young adult or teenage son in sobriety all while being affirming, loving, and consistent. While any loving parent may feel like one cancels out the other, what if we told you that it could all work together? Here are a few ways you can demonstrate love in action with your son who is battling addiction:

Show up.

As you may know by now, Capstone takes a systems approach to treatment. We require parent/guardian involvement throughout our entire treatment process – whether they are a minor or an adult. We do this not only because your son needs your support, but because we know that you need our support, encouragement, and coaching as well. While your son may be the one in treatment, we know that most times the entire family system has been impacted.

From our experience, it makes a world of difference to our clients when they see their parents show up for them at one of the most vulnerable moments of their life.

Speak up.

Sometimes we feel we are sparing our loved ones by choosing to suffer in silence in silence, but this is actually harmful and a barrier to growth and healing. We encourage you to speak up. Let your son know that you are noticing his behaviors, and that you are open to talking about what’s going on. Speaking up also includes setting boundaries for your home – especially when there are other children in the home. Rules without relationship breeds rebellion, so the more you invest in the relationship with your son, the more well-received your boundaries will be.

Own up.

Whether it be for enabling poor behavior, not being honest, or not being available, it is imperative to take ownership for any role that you may have played in contributing to your son’s addictive patterns. While it may take humility, ownership and honesty makes you relatable and approachable to your son.

“I feel like I can open up more to my parents now,” a client after his parents attended Family Week.

Follow up.

Stay diligent in your pursuit of a new normal for your family. While it may be tempting to hover over your son’s every action, it is more meaningful to follow through with being present, maintaining boundaries, and owning your own actions.

Is your son struggling with addiction or addictive behaviors? Here are a few steps to show your teenage or young adult son you are there to support him. Call 866-729-4479 or fill out our Help Form to learn how we can be your partners in healing.

 Capstone Treatment Center works with young men ages 14-26 struggling with: Trauma • Behavior & Attitude • Depression • Attachment Issues • Addictions • Co – Occurring Disorders • Toxic Shame • Sexually Addictive Behaviors • Family Conflict • Compulsive Behaviors • Substance Abuse • Low Self Esteem & more.

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